Every year, millions of people around the world make New Year resolutions. It’s not a strange fact that Gyms around the world get the most enrollments in January. How many of us are actually adhering to these self-made resolutions?
Are we all procrastinators? Are we too lazy to follow our resolutions? Are we over ambitious in writing down resolutions?
I don’t know the answers to these questions – but what I do know is that the problem is not with our resolutions. The problem lies in the way we approach these resolutions.
Do you know people who have quit smoking 700 times? Or someone who has finally decided to go on a diet, 500 times? Where did they go wrong? Where do we all go wrong?
Through this article, I intend to share how we can make the most out of our New Year Resolutions in 2016.
Sandwich – Pain in Pleasure.
As a coach, I’ve read numerous resolutions, and 90% of the time, I feel that people write hand-written plans to make their lives more miserable. The sandwiching pain in pleasure approach is all about including items in your resolution which bring a huge smile on your face. A ratio of 2:1 should be used, i.e. for every single painful commitment you make, make two commitments that are rated as pleasure. This is how I have used it:
- Develop more localized case studies to better equip participants with regional and national perspectives. [Pleasure]
- Avoid fast-food, high calorie items & meat items at least 7 times a week. [Pain]
- Listen to at least 1 audio book every week. [Pleasure]
One of the major reason for an absolutely miserable resolution attainment rate is that we only reflect at them again the next year [that too if you are amongst that elite group of individuals who took the effort of writing the resolution]. Set steps on a daily, weekly, monthly and quarterly basis, depending upon the nature of the resolution.
Share it & Paste it.
Sharing is caring. This proves right when it comes to resolutions as well. Sharing resolutions with others is immensely beneficial. Sharing resolutions with your friends and family is like creating an audit mechanism. They can taunt you, tease you and even embarrass you for not acting upon resolutions. Pasting resolutions is extremely productive as it works as a daily reminder. Paste your resolutions at places like your workstation, bed side-table and the most ideal, on the inward side of the washroom door. It works!
Challenge & Chance.
Let’s see the type of resolutions we have. Most of them are challenging. Very rarely we find resolutions which are insanely impossible and can be categorized as a wild wish. Every year, include at least 1-3 wild dreams in your resolution. You may not be able to achieve them, but who knows, you might get lucky! I am a strong believer of law of attraction. Let the positive energies be attracted towards you. This year, I have aimed at making a contribution at the UN level. I don’t know how – but honestly speaking, how doesn’t matter when it comes to dreams.
Life without fun is like tree without leaves, fruits and flowers. Fun adds colors to life. Your resolutions must reflect an element of wit, fun and humor. If going to the gym and exercising is part of your resolution, how about writing it as “Don’t exercise more than four times a week. It’s unnecessary and might even be harmful”. Fun is a serious job and idiots can’t relate to it.
Once you have decided on steps [Monthly and Quarterly], reward yourself for achieving it. Rewarding yourself can perhaps be the biggest source of motivation to do more. But hello… be considerate in rewarding yourself. Award for being successful in dieting shouldn’t be “Eat all you can.” How about getting a professional portrait of yours made, framing it and challenging yourself for the next step?
Make resolutions. I am sure there are many around you who will discourage you by saying that “It didn’t work last year, why do it this year?” Ignore them. Writing resolutions is the first step towards fulfilling it.
Happy New Year!
About the Author:
Sohail Zindani is a Management Consultant & OD Facilitator, Author, Leadership Coach, Founder & Managing Director at Learning Minds Group Pvt Ltd. Sohail is one of Pakistan’s most sought-after trainer, consultant, thought-leader and keynote speaker. He is arguably the most provocative, engaging and stimulating management consultant in the business.